I had a few firsts in one hit a couple of weeks ago, when our Parelli professional came to visit for a day of lessons. I haven’t had a lesson with a Parelli instructor before, everything I’ve learned coming from friends, DVDs and the Internet. It’s also the first time I’ve had a two-hour lesson, and it’s been a long time since I’ve had a lesson on “my” horse, rather than a riding school one (in my pre-teen years, I had regular lessons on my loaned pony, or one of the other ponies at the small livery yard we were based at, but the majority of my life has involved riding school ponies and horses).
I spent a few weeks changing my mind about my goal for the lesson, and ultimately reacted to what happened the day previously during the play day, plus what Prince gave me on the day. Fortunately, he co-operated beautifully and demonstrated a few small issues I’d been struggling to crack, which was very kind of him! I find that horses often behave well when an instructor is looking, so I was pleased that he obliged in Tracey’s presence, allowing her to see and understand what was happening, and offer a solution. Becky, 1; Prince, 0.
It was quite a long wait until my lesson – the day was split so that the first two hours were for Prince and his owner to have a lesson along with one of our friends and her young horse. As Jo is now heavily pregnant, her lesson was split into two hour-long slots with lunch in the middle, and my lesson (with another of our volunteers) was last. Due to the weather not being brilliant, I unfortunately didn’t get to watch the other lessons quite as intently as I’d have liked, but I also wasn’t too disappointed, as what the others ended up working on turned out to be quite far removed from my own subject matter!
When it was my turn, I had Prince plaited up and ready to go, and we began warming up on the ground. I’d already given our instructor, Tracey, a quick brief on the issues I was having, and she’d seen Prince perform the day before, so we both knew what we were in for. I told her that he’d been demonstrating some anxiety about working under saddle recently, and that my biggest struggle when riding is that I can’t get consistency when asking him to move forwards – he’ll do two, three or even four strides of any given gait, then seem to forget what he’s doing or lose confidence and stop or try to turn around. In addition to all of that, he’s resisting my hand on the ground, tensing through his poll and setting his head against me, which makes everything harder! Ultimate relaxation is what we want, so we decided we’d see what happened.
Tracey was happy with my usual warm up plan, so I proceeded with my ground work much as normal. She prescribed a course of “Touch It”, asking me to dot my tack around the paddock and incorporate having Prince touch each item as part of my warm up. This worked nicely, getting him more relaxed and intrigued by the experience, rather than putting on his, “oh no, here comes the saddle” face.
When it came to my circling game, Prince duly set his poll and began his favourite game of deciding to change the rein all by himself. Tracey laughed, because Prince was being cheeky, and gave me an idea I kicked myself for not coming up with: make the wrong thing hard. She said that if Prince wants to go the other way, he can, but he must do so at the next gait up (he normally decides when trotting that he’s had enough of one rein, so if he changes the rein without me asking, I’m to tell him that he can go the other way, but at a canter). The premise is that the right thing is easy, and that now he’s doing it out of cheekiness rather than lack of confidence, it’s time for me to be more prescriptive and a bit more demanding of him. So I sent him cantering off, slowed him down again, switched him back to the other rein and let him think about it. He’s learning that my way is the easy way and his way is the hard way!
I tacked him up, ran through my pre-flight checks and again hit a bump in the road which I was glad Tracey witnessed: when asking Prince to flex laterally from the ground whilst tacked up, he either does it instantly or again sets his poll and jaw – you can see it in the muscles! I got praise from Tracey for a really nice bit of lateral flexion, but when I released the pressure and asked again, he set his head. At that point, her advice was not to wait all day – I was to up the phases, and if he really wasn’t listening, ask him to yield his hindquarters too, in order to get him to turn his head. Once again, making the wrong thing hard. Another great piece of advice.
Once I mounted up, the real work inevitably began! Something which I was pleased would be relevant to where Prince and I are at was to undertake a “passenger ride” – the rider puts their reins down and simply asks the horse to keep moving, it’s the horse’s choice where you go. The aim is to get the horse thinking forwards, rather than waiting for every direction from the rider. The most difficult thing as an experienced rider is to avoid influencing the horse with shifts in weight, and looking where you’re probably going. I made the mistake of fixing my gaze on Prince’s poll – I soon got dizzy and learned to look through his ears without directing him.
Prince turned in tight circles at a brisk trot, so I did have to encourage him away from that pattern and ask him for a wider direction. Then he trotted up and down the fence, trying to be near the spectators, who made it an uncomfortable place for him to be. Then the most interesting thing happened – he made himself a one-horse demolition derby: there were lots of jump blocks and poles in the middle of the arena, and he went crashing through all of them, trying to ask if I wanted him to somehow attempt the obstacles. Again, we spent too long here without him getting the point, so I eventually asked him to move away and carry on. He finally put himself on some larger circles, and I took up the reins to move on to my next exercise.
Tracey asked me to have Prince follow the rail. I was told that for him to be on two tracks, with his nose in the middle of his chest was the “green zone”, and if his nose wandered or any of his legs dipped inwards, he was in the red zone and I had to correct him, asking him to continue travelling forwards close to the rail. Off we went at a walk, me correcting his nose occasionally. Once he appeared relaxed, we moved up to a trot, and after a couple of laps, he blew out, relaxing properly. At that point, I stopped and praised him, earning me praise from Tracey too.
I changed the rein and repeated the exercise in the opposite direction. Prince took longer to blow out this time, but once he did, I stopped and praised him again, and that’s where the lesson ended. The prescription is lots more following of the rail to build his confidence and keep him moving forwards.
As we chatted at the end of the lesson, I admitted to Tracey that with the way Prince behaved in the warm up, setting his jaw and turning around and generally being a pain in the backside, I wouldn’t have got into the saddle if she hadn’t been there – he’s been behaving like this on and off, and has probably learned that this behaviour means I won’t ride. I never feel that he’s dangerous, but the brief that I’ve always been given by his owner is to put the relationship first, and I still find it hard to judge where the line should be drawn.
Tracey was very positive and encouraging, saying that she thought I was doing a great job and that I’ve done him no harm, that things are happening with him, but he’s a horse who takes a long time to warm up to you. Her final takeaway for me was to tell me to believe in myself more! I didn’t realise until she said it how little I do believe, how I keep saying that I’m still new at this stuff and my experience with “young” (Prince is 11, but in ridden terms, he’s only about five) horses is non-existent. But the reality is that I’ve come a long way, and Prince is progressing (I think I’m learning more than he is at the moment!).
It was a fantastic lesson, and I’m hoping to book a follow-up for the end of the summer. As we don’t have an arena, I can’t ride over the winter, so it’ll be back to ground work, and limited work at that, as I only have a very small indoor space to work in (I can only have Prince on a 12-foot line, and trot work is minimal due to the surface), so in my next lesson I would like to ride, to see where we’ve got to, but I will also be asking for some ground work ideas for the winter, to keep us entertained! I can’t quite believe that the summer is disappearing so quickly, but I’m fairly pleased with how it’s going, and am glad to have had this particular experience.